Feeling Invisible at Work? You Are Not Alone
So many people come to me thinking they need legal advice, and of course, often they do. But what they really need first is to be seen and heard.
To have someone finally say: “Yes, what is happening is wrong. Yes, it hurts for a reason.” (Mostly women ask, “Am I crazy?” No, you’re not crazy, you’re human.)
Gaslighting gets talked about a lot, and for good reason. But the part that often hits hardest isn’t the “you’re imagining things” moment, it’s the isolation that follows.
The invisibility. This is especially hard as we age as invisibility tends to follow us everywhere we go. And work is where we spend a lot of time.
Of course it hurts when the place you gave so much to suddenly couldn’t care less. Especially when you’ve given years of loyalty, service, and heart to a mission or a company. You believed in the work. You cared about the people.
You took pride in doing a good job because that’s what we’re all conditioned to do from the moment someone asks us, “What do you do?” as if that’s the most important thing about a human being.
So when the job you loved doesn’t love you back, it hits hard. When you’re tossed aside like a used battery, it makes you question everything: What was the point of all that effort?
It’s disorienting. It’s painful. And it can make you feel profoundly alone.
Here is the thing: You’re not.
So many of us have lived this exact story.
You did everything “right,” and it still went wrong, not because of you, but because workplaces are built on systems that reward extraction, not humanity.
The good news is that on the other side, you start to realize that work was never the most important thing about you. Honestly, it’s all a big lie.
All the parts of life you were told were secondary: rest, relationships, creativity, joy, your actual identity, those are the things that last. Those are the things that matter, especially relationships.
If no one has said this to you lately: I believe you. I see what you’re carrying. You’re not invisible, and you’re not alone in this experience.
This is what I help clients do every day: untangle the pain, reclaim their sense of self, and step into a life where they are valued for more than their productivity.